ShareMyHeart Blog

Failure to Communicate

I recently fell in love with a woman from another country.  We had shared time together in the States and when I traveled back to her world we spent more time together.  We had similar interests, complimentary personalities, and thoroughly enjoyed being with each other.  There was only one real challenge.

We didn't speak the same language. 

Her world was Spanish.  My world was English.  After several months of studying Spanish and doing the best I could with dictionaries, hand signals, and helpful friends we seemed to be doing fairly well...until we hit the wall.  We created a situation where nothing but simple, honest, heart-to-heart communication would work.  And we were unable to do that. 

Now I could make up excuses about how the problem was that we didn't speak the same language, but in truth it was much deeper than that, much more than words alone...

We didn't share our hearts. Fear got in the way and shut communcation down. 

I am very saddened by this experience, and am struggling to learn from it.  For the moment all I can say is that Failure to Communicate is most likely not a word problem...it is a heart problem.

If we truly love someone from the depths of our heart we WILL find a way to communicate, no matter what it takes.

Are you pretending that the communication failures in your life are word problems?  Need help with this?  Write me...

Choose Love...and Leap...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller
ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart - Your Love Account

Did you know that when you get into a love relationship with a woman she keeps score?

Absolutely!  And you had better know the rules of this game if you want to win.

First, she gives you 100 points just for showing up...Why?  Who knows?  I am not explaining women here, I am just observing what they do...

Next, she gives you love as long as you have points in your Love Account.  Now this is basic math guys-

Points in your Love Account = Love from her
NO Points in your Love Account = NO love from her

I hope it is obvious, you need to keep points in your love account or you lose...

How's that Love Account doing?  Do you have Love in the bank or are you overdrawn?

Want some help with this?  Check out this video-

Choose Love...and Leap...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller
ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart - Winning the Valentine's Game

O.K. Guys, we're days away from the big Valentine's Day Game...are you ready?

Get up off the couch and pay attention here...

Let's talk Return on Investment for a moment.  You are investing time in a relationship with a woman you care about.  She in turn is investing time in your life.  If your relationship is anything like most, the ratio of your time to her time is about 1/100...women spend LOTS more time on relationships than men do.

Smarten up here guys.  This means that for every 1 hour you spend appreciating her, she is spending MANY more hours making your life better, even pleasurable.  And she will keep doing that...to a point.

That point is when she realizes you aren't doing ANYTHING to help her. 

DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN!

Valentine's Day is one of only four days you have to remember this year (don't forget the other three-anniversary, birthday, and mom's day).  You NEED to do something MEANINGFUL for her that shows her you REALLY APPRECIATE all she does for you.

Forget the flowers.  Forget the candy.  Go for her Heart.  Win the Valentine's Game!
ShareMyHeart.com will help you.

Every woman wants a Hero.  Are you hers?

Choose Love...and Leap...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller
ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart - Valentine's Hero #1

So here we are, a few weeks before Valentine's Day...a day most guys forget until the LAST minute, at which point they RUN out to get something "Romantic" for their special woman so they don't get labeled insensitive and uncaring. 

What do I do, what do I do?  Flowers?  Easy, spend a few bucks, maybe even get a card at Safeway...that will save you from being labeled a jerk.  You will probably get a nice smile out of that approach. 

Then there is the "Night Out", take her to dinner, a movie, spend some time with her.  Unfortunately, this is only what the guys who aren't married yet do, because they are still hoping for something more, so they are willing to put out a little more...You guys go for it!  Take the extra time, spend some money, she'll love it. 

No, this message is for you other guys, the ones in the long term relationships, three years plus...you guys who have forgotten how much you wanted her in your life and now take her for granted.  Wake up William!  For you guys, here's a little reminder...

SHE DOESN'T WANT FLOWERS ANYMORE!  SHE DOESN'T WANT THE BOX OF CANDY!  WHAT SHE REALLY WANTS IS TO BE DEEPLY APPRECIATED FOR ALL SHE HAS DONE FOR YOUR LIFE!

What she really wants is for you to take the time to tell her how much she matters to you.  How do you do this?  Write her a love letter...need help, visit ShareMyHeart.com.  Do it now, she deserves it!

Every woman wants a Hero.  Are you hers?

Choose Love...and Leap...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller, Founder, ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart - I Leap For Love

This past week was very challenging.  I made it that way.

I like to set goals each week and then push myself to accomplish them.  I don't always achieve everything I set out to do, BUT I achieve what I need to do.  And this past week, I did what I needed to keep ShareMyHeart.com moving towards success. 

What I feel best about is how I kept my attitude positive.  I worked every day to STOP my mind when it headed into dark corners of doubt and refocused my thoughts on positive outcomes.  I constantly reminded myself of how blessed I am and at how incredibly wonderful my life is. 

I kept choosing LOVE...and when I created the mental illusion that I had some chasm of fear to get over, I LEAPED FOR LOVE...

Choose Love...and Leap...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller, Founder, ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart - Moving Up The Mountain

The past few days have been very tough going.  I had some BIG Questions to answer...the biggest was whether or not to keep going with my business, ShareMyHeart.com.  Over the past 9 months, I have stretched my financial resources to the breaking point...Did I go too far?

Very unsettling and extremely emotional.  I felt like I was standing on the side of a mountain in a very severe storm which threatened to blow me away at any moment...

I prayed...lots.  I wrote my previous BLOG entry about Two Choices - Love or Fear?

I chose Love. That made all the difference.

It is several days later now.  The storm inside and out has quieted.  Now a gentle rain washes away the crazy emotions that were bashing my guts.  I am moving up the mountain again.  Small flowers peek out from under rocks, reminders of the beauty that is always around me.  I see a patch of blue sky ahead...

I am Loved...as you are...always...

Keep going...

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller, Founder, ShareMyHeart.com
  write me at stephen@whatmomwants.com 

ShareMyHeart.com - Only Two Choices: Love or Fear?

Looking back at 2007, I am mostly struck with how blessed my life has been.  I chose to let go of the security of a full-time job doing something I was very good at, and jumped into the wild world of internet retail marketing, which I knew virtually nothing about and which offered no "security" at all.

I am so glad I jumped, even though it scared the beejeesus out of me!

Letting go of my security blanket opened up a whole new world of possibilities and ultimately led me to a much simpler and fuller life doing what my heart really wants...being with my family and being of service to others.

Of course, there is another side to this story...this past year was an almost daily challenge to surmount obstacles I did not see coming, especially the ones in my head. The whole process of creating a new business from nothing was much more involved than I could have imagined...fortunately.  But I kept going, and EVERY day I was guided or helped in ways that moved my Dream forward.  Ideas, people, money, whatever I needed, somehow it happened.  To be sure, ShareMyHeart.com happened because I worked very, very hard, but I was working for something I believed in, and still do.  I believe that by helping others Share Their Hearts, I help them get the Love They Want.

I have come to realize that my Life Journey really comes down to two choices -

Do I want Fear or Love to run my Life?

I definitely let Fear run me many times.  So I stopped and looked at what I was really afraid of.  I was afraid of losing a lot of money.  I was afraid of failure.  I was afraid of letting people down.

I was afraid I would not be loved...

Then I sat in a 600 year old cathedral in Mexico and talked with God, Be Still and Know..., and I got very clear that my Fears were total illusions.  Love is the only reality.  God Loves Me.  Always.  Infinitely.  Forever.  And I look back now at all those fearful times that I got through and all the love that has flowed into my life this past year...Wow!  Wow!  Super Wow!!!

There is only Love...And Love is my only Choice for 2008.

May you have the Happiest of New Years,

Yours to count on,

 

  Stephen Miller, Founder
  ShareMyHeart.com
  HeroGuys.com, HeroGals.com

ShareMyHeart.com - Get What You Want By Giving...

I was sitting on a park bench in Zacatecas, Mexico this afternoon letting thoughts fly through my head like clouds sailing across the sky...

I have been a bit ill this week, which means my mind has wandered into dark places and dug up things that were not so pleasant...like being sick sucks, I don't really have the energy to do that, why isn't she calling me?  Self-centered, low-energy thoughts...

I weathered those moments, thanks mostly to a lot of praying and loving family, and the past few days have been increasingly wonderful, which gets me back to the park bench...beautiful afternoon, sitting in the sun, wondering how I could get my mind back on a positive thought track.

Give What I Want.  That's the reminder that filled my head.

Give What I Want To Get What I Want.  It always works for me. 

If I Want Love in some way, then I first Give Love that way. 

Always works.  Maybe not in ways I expect, but Giving What I Want ALWAYS makes me feel good, and other good things follow from that.

So here's Christmas staring us in the face.  A special time meaning many things to many people.  I think Christmas is almost universally a Special Time of Giving. 

What do you want most for Christmas?  Beyond the "stuff", what does your Heart Want Most?

You might consider Giving Your Heart first...and see what happens next...

Where to Start?  Share Your Heart.

  Stephen Miller, Founder
  ShareMyHeart.com
  HeroGuys.com, HeroGals.com

ShareMyHeart.com - Love Letters, the Un-Gift

I just did a Google search for Personalized Christmas Gift...

WOW!  TOTALLY OVERWHELMING!  I stopped after 5 pages...I doubt most people go that far.  The Internet is filled with stuff to buy, all the businesses pushing and shoving each other to get our attention so we will "click" onto their site and purchase.  Not much different than retail stores this time of year of course, but what happens to the "Spirit of Christmas" in this chaos? 

Maybe the "Spirit of Christmas" was lost the moment we turned on our computers. 

I remember my daughter asking me once during her college years what she could get her Mom for Christmas.  I suggested she write a letter to her Mom and tell her all the reasons she loved her.  At first my daughter didn't think much of this idea, it seemed, well, cheap.  Unfortunately, her mind had been conditioned by a society that says gifts should be "bought" to have value.  However, she reconsidered and wrote the letter.

Her Mom told me it was the most precious Gift she had ever received. She cried as she read all the reasons her daughter loved her.

In a world we have made so busy that we seldom stop to share our true feelings with those we Love, you don't need Google to give a "Personalized Christmas Gift".  You don't need to buy the "Spirit of Christmas." You can "Be the Spirit of Christmas."

You can write a Love Letter.

In Joy and Gratitude,

  Stephen Miller, Founder
  ShareMyHeart.com
  HeroGuys.com, HeroGals.com

ShareMyHeart.com - The Special Christmas Gift

In younger years, I loved to make special Christmas gifts, especially for my wife.  Once, I found an old trunk, classic lines with wood trim, very beat up, but I made it into a treasure chest.  It took weeks to refinish it and make it beautiful again.  Then I filled it with rose petals and beautiful packages, love letters...and snuck it under the Christmas tree for her to find on Christmas morning. 

I can still remember how excited she was when she first saw the trunk, and how much more excited she got when she opened it up and discovered all the love inside. 

I still love making things for people.  There is something very precious about gifts we make for others.  I think it is the time it takes to create such gifts.  I know I am always filled with gratitude when I get cards in the mail from friends.  I know it took time and effort on their parts to go out and get the card and then take the time to put loving thoughts inside and mail it to me. 

Not everyone has the talent or opportunity to actually build special Christmas gifts for their loved ones...but we all CAN take the time to share our special Christmas thoughts for our loved ones.  Tell them how much we appreciate them, recall those special memories of life shared with them with words and pictures. 

Any gift can be a Treasure Chest if you simply take the time to fill it with love.

Visit us at ShareMyHeart.com and let us help you make a Special Christmas Gift for your loved ones.

May you have the Happiest of Holidays!

Yours to count on,

  Stephen Miller, Founder
  ShareMyHeart.com
  HeroGuys.com, HeroGals.com