ShareMyHeart Blog: ShareMyHeart.com

I have been married 5 times in the past 38 years. Sometimes it's embarrassing to admit, thoughts like "Jeez Stephen, what's your problem?" crawl through my mind.

Looking back, I realized that I started out with a very, very limited perspective on what marriage was, but more importantly, I had a very, very small view of who I was. It turned out that being married 5 times was mostly a journey into who I was. Marriage taught me a lot about me.

I learned that being married was not going to make me happy if I was not happy in the first place. Marriage is not an answer to problems, but it may be a path to solving them.

Intimate relationship with other human beings is our most powerful way to learn about life and ourselves. I happened to use marriage as my primary path to learn about me. Of course, looking back I must admit that I was so shy in younger years that if a woman smiled at me I thought we were soul mates. And why date when you can skip all that prelim. stuff and just get married. I had so much to learn.

I am going to use this blog, ShareMyHeart, to do just that. Share my heart about what I have learned, and have yet to learn, about marriage and intimate relationships and me. My hope is that this sharing will do some good, perhaps help others on their journeys.

So let's start with Rule#1 for successful marriages-

Happiness starts with me. Looking for someone else to make me happy never works. Others can share happiness with me and help me find the happiness inside me, but they can never make me a happy person. If I want to be happy, I must find happiness inside of me.

Where are you looking for happiness?

Yours to count on,